Relationships are tricky. From early on, we all watched those notorious Disney Princesses dance and sing about finding their one true love, and sighed with longing just wondering when our princes were going to come save us so we could live happily ever after.
Fast-forward to our teenage and young adult years, we devoured all the classic rom-coms equipped with a carton of ice cream and a box of tissues. Sleepless in Seattle, While You Were Sleeping, Batman Forever (was I the only one swooning over Val Kilmer and Nicole Kidman falling in temporary love to the tune of Seal’s Kiss from a Rose?)
In all of our daydreams we created the perfect romance, complete with that phrase we vowed to always tell our partner, even if we want to strangle them for not putting the dishes away correctly for the thousandth time in a row. That’s right: I Love You.
Those three words are not what this post is about. Sorry to you smug readers out there who thought for sure you knew the answer. Don’t get me wrong, those three words can be extremely powerful when used genuinely. But, they can also easily become a routine, humdrum reaction.
The three words I’m talking about require vulnerability, surrender, and honest, true presence and acknowledgement of your partner. I know, crazy hippie woo-hoo stuff, right?
Drum roll please
You. Were. Right.
I view those words as the golden idol of relationships. When you use that phrase, a million and five things happen, including:
So, there you are. The three magic words. Try them on for size. Maybe you’re not ready to apply them to a serious argument quite yet, but start small; Hey, I added cinnamon to my latte this morning. You are right, that’s really yummy! Or, You are right, little Jimmy really likes wiping his boogers on the bathroom wall. Let’s do something about that.
Now go forth and make your relationships awesome. You’re welcome.
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